bbqguys on girlfriend lied to me about not going clubbing- how should I respond?
bounce. if you're not married and do not have kids, haul ass! not because she lied, she didn't. she's free like you're free but the long distance, see you in feb stuff never works ad drawn out splits are crazy painful. treat relationships like a sales call when you're young. a sales-person calling on the telephone, if they know how to be most effective is always looking for a reason to hang-up on you. they will not try to convnce you you want what they're selling. a good salesperson knows if the product is right and at the right time for you it will be impossible to get you to hang up the telephone. relationships should be o different. if s/he is "the one" - or one of them - you will not be able to get rid of him/her. bounce. go find someone closer and able to spend time having fun. as soon as you have a doubt or a hesitation, bounce. when one of the "great" ones comes along it will be impossible to get rid of them. that's the one you try to understand and then to be understood and learn all about what they want and how to help them get it. all the steps in between are just steps. there is solid gold happiness at the top of the stairs. run fast from one step to the next until your find the prize at the end.